In this day and age, you can never be too certain you really know anyone – even those who are closest to you. Once upon a time, it was common to forge relationships early in life, and maintain those relationships for many, many years. You knew a person’s history, as well as all their family and friends. However, times have certainly changed.
Technology has created a global community, allowing us to meet people from all walks of life, all over the world. We find ourselves forging relationships with people whose faces we have never seen, whose family and friends we have never met.
What secrets are in your significant other’s past?
When you become romantically involved with someone, it becomes even more crucial to understand that person’s history. Not only could the success of the relationship depend upon it, but you might be in for some shocking surprises. Imagine suddenly meeting someone and learning they had once been married to your boyfriend or girlfriend. Imagine an ex-spouse sending court documents to your house demanding alimony or child support.
Why your lover lies about the past?
Reasons for being less than open about former relationships can vary from innocent to sinister. Perhaps your loved one is uncomfortable talking about someone who shared his or her life before you, or maybe they went through an emotional breakup and are still healing old wounds. Or perhaps they are afraid you will think them a failure for not being able to save the relationship.
Darker reasons for hiding a past relationship – especially a marriage – can include abuse, drug or alcohol addiction, criminal acts they committed, or infidelity.
Before you begin, you need to be somewhat of a sleuth. You need to know where your significant other was raised, went to college, worked, and lived. With any luck, your search will only need to encompass one or two cities or towns.
Laws vary from state to state on just how much of a record can be publicized, and in what manner the records may be accessed. Enlisting the assistance of an online agency that conducts background checks will streamline your search. Companies such as Net Detective offer the ability to search multiple databases at one time, allowing you to quickly restore your peace of mind.
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